I forgot to mention that, even after this overhaul of her system, Barbara forgot to put Colin's adoption study in the folder she left for us. I called her later, and she said that she'll put it in the mail for us. With luck, it'll be here tomorrow. I could have picked it up, but we won't be able to get back to her until Tuesday anyway, as she doesn't work on Mondays.
One other thought I was having...perhaps you've looked through the waiting children on the web site and you wonder why we haven't gone for others. The reason is usually one of four.
A lot of times, it's age - we are looking for a biologically feasible gap between Davan and "Sam" if "Sam" is younger. If "Sam" is older, we're looking for at least 2 years older, more if "Sam" turns out to be a girl. This is to reduce competition for place in the family.
Another common reason is the issues a child is dealing with. We don't feel like we can handle a child who will be dependent on us for life, for example. Also, though, certain issues seem incompatible with our life style. We don't want to give up leaving the house, for example. One child didn't do well whenever he had to leave home, for example, as we discovered when we read his adoption child summary.
The third reason is a stated interest in a child being the youngest or only child. Only obviously won't work and youngest doesn't work if he/she is older than Davan.
The last major reason is if there are more than 2 siblings or even more than 1 child, if their issues are not minor. Space-wise, we only have room for two more, as Davan's major request throughout this whole process has been to have her own room still and we have small bedrooms. Also, regarding the attention a new child will need, if there is more than one with major attention needs, that would be unfair to Davan (as would even one who's needs were so sever that Davan would be neglected).
A peek into our criteria.
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