Davan spent the night at a friend's last night. That isn't a big deal for a lot of 10 year olds, but Davan isn't into spending the night away from home very much. She's spent the night at my parents' place and enjoys that usually. She has successfully slept over at two different friend's houses before last night. But one of those friends, even though they were close family friends, had a lot of attempts and only a few successful overnights.
So, trying at a different friend's house for the first time was a big deal. Davan was very nervous when it was time to go, even crying a little. I suggested that she pretend that she was only playing until bedtime so that she could relax and enjoy the play. Then, at bed time, she could chose if she wanted to stay or come home.
Luckily, and I wouldn't have tried it otherwise, the friend and her mom were both quite cool the with arraignment. This friend has found it challenging to sleep over and has needed rescuing, so they were fine with it being a trying sort of situation.
Davan came home today saying she wished she could have stayed longer and that she had a lot of fun. Yay! I told her that, next time, if she really wanted to stay longer and it didn't interfere with their plans, she could call and ask, but once we've driven over to get her, she was coming home.
She also seemed happy to be home and have lunch with us and she's off in her room, having time to herself, so I think it was fine for her to come home when she did. Wanting more is much better than wishing you'd gone home earlier.