Frustrations Galore

We're having more Barbara moments. Arg! That woman drives me absolutely nuts! This morning, she calls and asks if we can get him to a psychological evaluation either on Monday or Tuesday morning.

Yes, but what about a placement for him? Tuesday is two weeks from when we had our meeting and two weeks was how long they were thinking he'd be in respite care so a foster family could be found.

She's done nothing - NOTHING! - to find him a foster family. She wanted to wait for the results of the evaluation to know what we're dealing with here. So he was supposed to just hang out in respite for months while the appointment was made and the results came back?!?!?! Really!?!?!?

Well, he can't hang out here that long. It just won't work. We're all pretty done here. Things are escalating - the basketball attack, for example - and we're in a "we're done" mind set. Things here aren't pretty. In addition, we're spending $175 every week he's here for camp and after care.

We were willing to do all this because we thought we were buying him time to move directly to a foster family instead of having to go through respite first. But, apparently nothing has been done to make that happen. So, now, we're talking respite anyway.

Barbara was even saying he needed to go to Lane County - his county of origin - which we'd discussed at the meeting and it was decided that they'd see about getting him into foster care locally so he could keep working with A, his therapist. Now, I don't know if that's best for him. Maybe he should go to Lane County. His half sister is down there, for one. For another, I don't know that continuing to work with A is in his best interests. However, it was what was decided at the meeting and Barbara didn't remember that until I reminded her.

She said that it was very emotional at the meeting and she's not surprised that different people came out of it with different ideas about what would happen next. I'm pretty sure she's the only one with different ideas. I'm willing to bet that the rest of us understood just fine. Anthony and I did kind of change our minds about if respite was best for him after, but we still understood and remembered the results of the meeting. Unlike Barbara, apparently. Arg!